It’s normal to hit a wall and have a hard time figuring out how to get yourself back on track.
Evaluate The Situation. What Are You Happy About? What Needs Work
You’ve realized that you’re in a rut… that was step one. Step two is looking at what is going on around you and trying to pinpoint what you are unhappy about. If you’ve had a major life change (ie: new position with work, a breakup, some difficulty with a good friend, weight gain, etc.) this may be the source of your annoyance or anxiety. If you have not had any big changes happen, consider things that you are happy about in your life and some things that you think need work. Something as simple as “I want to make more money at work and I’m not sure what to do” could be influencing both your professional and social life. Make yourself a list of the things going on that you’d like to see change and, if possible, try and make some notes for yourself or create an action plan for addressing the situation.
Enjoy A Little ‘Me’ Time
Pamper yourself. Buy yourself that latte you are craving. Head to the gym or play some golf with friends. Make time for that yoga class you haven’t made it to in two weeks. Spend an hour watching a show you really enjoy. Treat yourself to an activity, meal, or thing that makes you feel good about yourself and brings a smile to your face.
Surrounding yourself with people that bring positivity to your life is a great way to feel better about yourself and to work towards being happier. With that being said, make the time you have alone count and try to fill it with activities that leave you feeling refreshed or accomplished. Doing laundry is a necessary evil, but that doesn’t mean you should skip out on drinking a glass of wine and curling up with your favorite book before going to bed for the night.
Let the people you’re closest to know that you’re feeling a little down. Chances are they will understand and will try to cheer you up. If you have some mending to do with a relationship or friendship, reach out and sincerely try to communicate with that person and try to resolve your issues. If you’re frustrated with your career, talk it out with a family member or a significant other and see if they have any suggestions for you if they were in your shoes. Boyfriend / girlfriend problems? Nothing a happy hour can’t fix!
Establish An End Goal
Create a timeline for what you would like to see happen and pinpoint what exactly your end goal is. When you figure out where you’d like to be at the end, you’ll have something to work towards. Maybe you want to lose five pounds by a special anniversary that is a month away. Create a manageable routine for yourself to follow. If you want to make more money, create a list of goals for yourself that are obtainable that you’d like to reach by a certain deadline. Giving yourself an achievable goal with little goals in between will help promote success.